• Jill

The Why Behind "Can You Relate?" Blog

Can you relate? You are watching a TV show and you recognize one of the actors from another TV show/movie. So you take to the internet to find where else you have seen that person. Soon, you find the answer but now another actor looks familiar. The next thing you know you have looked up every actor and where they film the show. You are going down a rabbit hole trying to find as much information as you can.

This happens with me. I need to know the why to almost everything and it drives me crazy until I get an answer that satisfies me. Wanting to know every little detail about things has it ups and downs. The upside, I get to learn about a subject I know nothing about. The downside is that I get obsessed about topics

Can you relate? Have you ever thought about doing an activity or having a conversation with someone but end up not going through with it because you played the whole scenario out in your head and not liked the way it ended up, so you just don’t go through with it?

I do this all the time. I get excited about a new adventure or presenting a new idea to someone. I think about what will happen if I make that move. Say those words. I play it over and over again in my head till I get to a point where I have talked myself out the adventure and conversation.

What, just happened. I was all excited and then boom I obliterated any thoughts of going through with the new something. Why did I just do that to myself?

I did it because I let my insecurities and fears get the best of me. I want the new so bad that I started to question whether or not I can actually do it. Soon, the self doubt takes over and I convince myself I am not worthy of the adventure or conversation. That sometimes it just safer (easier) to stick with what we know, instead of taking a risk.

To help myself overcome being afraid of the unknown and to start going after what I want, I wrote out on post it notes what I wish to change. For example, I wrote “I will overcome my fears and insecurities” and then put it on the wall next to my bed. Before going to sleep and before I go to work I look at the post it note and repeat over and over again what it says. The goal is that the more I say it, that I will start to believe it.

These are just samples of what my blog posts are about. They are a journey into how my brain works through certain situations. The hope is that the people who read what I write can relate to something I have been/going through and see that they are not alone in the way they feel. I know how lonely it can feel when you think no one understands how your mind works. Don’t worry I understand and know you are not alone.